A Taste of IVF Over 40

10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 … Lift Off!

Posted on: Thursday, September 11, 2008

I’m so sorry for such a long story here but it’s all sooo good.

So much has happened in the last two days.  Where do I start?

I’ll start with me.  I am so very happy and blessed.

Now to my niece (I can’t help it … that’s where all the action is this cycle!).


Her flight arrived on Tuesday afternoon and I immediatley whisked her away to meet my IVF specialist.  That all went really well.  He examined her and pronounced her a particularly good donor.  I couldn’t help but ask him the question – I just wanted to hear the answer.  I had to hear the answer.  “So what do you think my chances are now?” I strained to ask without too much excitement in my voice.

“High”, he said. 

Lovely, lovely, lovely I thought.  I dwelt on his answer momentarily but it wasn’t enough – I needed (and I am sure I’ve earned) a bigger high (so to speak!) than that.  I couldn’t resist going for gold. 

“So, what do you mean by high?” I asked.

“Well”, he said.  “Imagine you’ve got a 23 year old girl and a 23 year old man; that’s the kind of chance that you have”.  That’s when I remembered that our anonymous sperm donor is still in uni.

I felt like a pig rolling around in mud.  Like a bride on her wedding day.  I felt like I now have a real, almost certain chance of falling pregnant.  This might sound a bit cliched but it’s almost as if I have to keep pinching myself.  I don’t think it’s sunk in.  I am going to be pregnant!  I’ve had such a bad run that it’s hard to believe. 

I feel like I’m looking through a shop window at something beautiful that I’ve wanted for ages.  However, the reality is that I am actually in the shop and I’m finally getting the item – I just can’t believe it.

It’s like sweet, sweet music that word – “high” (as opposed to that nasty word “five percent chance”) – Yay!!! 


Now, this was all very interesting.  My husband and I met with the counsellor the day before my niece did.  The counsellor raised some pretty serious issues like: What will you tell the child?  What will you tell your family?  What if your niece changes her mind?  We worked through them.  Apparently, a lot of donors go to counselling and after they are confronted with the reality of donating, and the implications that can arise, they change their mind.  Argh!  Slight panic.  However, my husband and I had personally done our share of contemplation over my niece’s generosity and her maturity.  We felt comfortable that she was also feeling comfortable, and confident.

We were right, thankfully.  My niece’s appointment with the counsellor seemed to go really well.  The counsellor raised a lot of potential issues that my niece may not have thought of.  We were lucky though; she had thought about a lot of them already and seemed to take the counselling session well.


This also went really well.  My niece was in there for about an hour going over everything with the nurse.  I waited outside, as I did with the counsellor.  She really does feel confident.  They gave her a little cool pack for transporting the hormones home on the plane.


OK … this is the icing on the cake.  My niece flew back to her city (four hour flight) last night.  She got her period this morning!!  Wow!  Could I have asked for things to go more smoothly?  She rang me straight away to tell me – she was so excited.

Like I said.  I really still feel like I’m looking through the window at all of this.  It doesn’t feel like it’s my good news story … yet!  OK, the baby will not be genetically linked to either my husband or I … but really; I do not care.  It’s kind of like adopting a child but I get to be pregnant, give birth and breast-feed!

I feel like running out onto the street, standing in the middle of the road and screaming with joy.  Am I being too excited too early??


16 Responses to "10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 … Lift Off!"

Wooo! All the positive reports are making me smile, too! Who can’t not stop being excited at this point? And why not get excited?

And this is sooo funny – “I felt like a pig rolling around in mud.”

Great to hear that everything is moving along so positively for you.

Be excited!! Enjoy it.

All systems go! Fabulous news. Why the hell not get excited? As the Doc said, your chances are excellent. Good luck!

Melba: Be excited. Be very excited! Congratulations! I am so happy for you. This is wonderful. You are wonderful. Your niece is most definately wonderful! This is so exciting! Finally, a good news IVF story!

I was so happy to read your post! What fantastic news! I cannot wait to hear your updates throughout this process!

Yesterday, my husband and I met with a counselor who specializes in infertility, specifically counseling for DE. We plan to go that route in a couple of months (shoring up finances). Thanks so much for sharing your story and being an inspiration and for bringing a smile (also, loved the “pig rolling around in mud” comment).

Enjoy this “high” (chances)! Positive thoughts coming your way from the U.S.!

DE works. Be excited. It’s so nice to have a really good shot. When (not IF) when you get pregnant, you’ll be able to have a nice secure pregnancy with low risk. Enjoy.

I am so very happy for you! It’s nice to feel the excitement in your words!

So glad to hear that it’s all good!! Things are progressing along perfectly, it sounds like! Looking forward to reading about your positive pregnancy test in the near future! =)

I just turned 41 this past week. My situation has mirrored your own story. I have followed this bolg but haven’t written until today. I too, am begining the process of DE from as 23 year old woman. Im am soooooooooo excited and I am sooooo excited that you too are headed down this path. I think this is a chance of sucess for us 41 year olds. I will be keeping you in my thoughts as we travel down the same path. Your donor will be family which makes this even more exciting! My thoughts have been, and will continue to be with you!

“Am I being too excited too early?”

Oh girl, HELL TO THE NO! I suggest a powerful happy bellow wherever you damned good and well please. I’ve seriously got an emotional high from your situation right now. And I see I’m not alone! This is so exciting. And I’m SO JEALOUS! We’re still going through that “one more time” garbage, then I’m right behind you! Yeeeeeehaaaaaw!

And your niece. Ah, your niece. What can I say? You tell her there is a special place in heaven or wherever good people go for women who donate eggs.

It’s so very good to hear you in a positive state again. Fingers crossed and full steam ahead!

PS – When this works and we all become “Internet Aunties”, I’m gonna have to stop swearing in my posts, huh? You know, just in case the kid is a prodigy and reads early or some such. This will be a hardship, girl, but I’ll do it for you! Onward!

Oh well it is all really happening… and NOW… so happy for you 🙂

I am so happy for you. You are sooooooooo lucky. We also had our meeting with the C’s. We don’t know anyone to donate and I am scared of the whole having to advertise deal. I am so sad and confused about what to do. I wish so bad for an angel like yours. Know any more like that ????? Good luck I’ll be reading as you go and hopefully some how get to the same joyful position.

I just stumbled upon your blog after doing some Google searches on IVF…I’m in the middle of injections now & excited & scared at the the time. I am so happy to read about your neice & donor…you are allowed to be totally excited!!!! Looking forward to hearing about your process

Hey girl –

Just a quick shout to say hope everything is going okay and I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Hey girl –

Just a quick shout to say hope everything is going okay. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you!

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